“Whenever anger comes up, take out a mirror and look at yourself. When you are angry, you are not very beautiful.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
When anger raises its ugly head, and we are consumed with rage, our beauty fades away. Choose not to give in to the temptation of the thunderclouds, and instead take a few deep breaths, count to ten, and let it go.
But is it really that easy to stay calm?
The Truth About Anger
Anger is not pretty!
But there’s also no such thing as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ anger – it’s a normal emotion. When you feel angry, it’s telling you that something has gone wrong, wronged you, or is threatening in some way.
The key is how you deal with the anger. It’s ok to feel it, but not to let it overtake you and become destructive. It’s a universal emotion, but how you approach it and express yourself can make all the difference.
If you can recognize when you’re angry and address it appropriately, you’ll be able to manage it and keep it from escalating.
How to Control and Manage Anger?
We know getting angry might seem inevitable, but it doesn’t have to be! Read on to find out how to manage anger and rage in your life with these 5 tips.
1. Think Twice Before You Speak
When it comes to expressing ourselves, it’s important to remember the adage: think twice before you speak.
In the chaos and intensity of the moment, it can be all too easy to blurt out something rash and unwise quickly. To avoid further strife, take a few moments to pause, collect your thoughts, and consider the repercussions of your words.
Doing so shows not only respect for yourself and your emotions but also for any other involved parties. In the long run, it will save a great deal of grief. This is one of the most effective tips to control anger.
2. Chill Out & Speak Up
When things start to get heated, it’s time to take a deep breath and remind yourself that staying calm is the best way to tackle any issue.
Then, when you feel ready, speak up about your dissatisfaction in a matter-of-fact yet non-confrontational tone.
Rather than trying to force solutions onto others, simply make your point known by eloquently expressing your concerns and desires – respect and kindness speak volumes during tough conversations.
3. Taking A Break From the Chaos
Sometimes adulting can feel like an endless stream of responsibilities and chaos. If you’re feeling overwhelmed and on edge, there’s an easy solution that you can use – take a timeout.
Step away from the stress for a few moments and allow yourself to recover. Put some time aside that is just for you, letting it be a time to recharge, refocus and regain your calm.
A few minutes of quiet time can help you feel better prepared to handle whatever challenges come your way without getting too frustrated or overwhelmed. So, when life’s stresses come knocking, answer with a timeout.
4. Taking the Problems in Stride
No matter how hard we try, we can’t escape certain problems that life throws our way. It is natural and healthy to feel angry or frustrated in such a situation, but there is an unspoken cultural pressure that insists that every problem has a solution. The trick is not just to search for a solution, although that may be a part of it.
It’s more important to understand how to approach and manage the problem. The best way to do this is to take these issues in stride and adopt a more witty and creative attitude.
This means understanding that problems are just part and parcel of life, and learning how to make the most of them. Sometimes, it can be beneficial to view a problem as an opportunity instead and use it as a platform to bring positive change and growth.
5. Lighten Things Up with a Little Humor
Humor can be an incredibly effective tool to reduce tension. When you’re feeling stressed and overwhelmed, a joke can be just the thing to provide some levity. The key is making sure your comedy is inoffensive.
Skip any sarcastic remarks and steer clear of comments that could be taken as hurtful. A couple of light-hearted laughs can go a long way in relieving your stress and helping you face what’s making you angry. A well-timed joke can make all the difference.
In the End, It’s All About Taking Control!
In life, there will inevitably be moments that spring surprises and frustration along the way. No matter how hard we try, it is out of our power to eliminate things that cause us anger. We cannot change the facts of life. However, we can shift how they affect us.
Having the strength to control our angry responses is essential to keep our peace of mind in the long run. Managing our reactions is key to finding contentment despite the hardships we may face. With this in mind having control of our feelings will help us reach a conclusion that is free of hostility and negativity.
Emotional Healing Through Yoga Therapy
Are you tired of feeling like your negative emotions control your life? Our program, Emotional Healing through Yoga Therapy with Fharzana Siraj-Level 1, is here to help.
Join us on May 19th, 20th, and 21st from 6-8 PM to learn how you can effectively deal with your anger and other negative emotions. Through this program, you will gain valuable insight into how to improve your mental and emotional well-being, leading to a healthier and happier life.